Stay Connected

Sharing an article by Phyllis Kominsky - "Getting Back to Life When Grief Won't Heal"...

"If there is any meaning to be taken from the terrible losses we must face in life, it seems to me it can only be that we need each other. We have to treasure the time we have with those we love. We have to stay open to love even after we have learned the hard way how much it hurts to lose those we love. If the past is never really past, then no one we have loved is ever fully lost to us. What we hold in our hearts is there forever.

To love another person is like visiting a beautiful place, a place where we are fully present and alive, even though we know that we will have to leave it sometime. The last time I was in such a place, the kind of place I visit in dreams, I stood looking out at the water and thought, I will leave part of myself here, and I will take part of this place with me. I thought then how this is true of anything I treasure and fear to lose.

When someone we love dies, a part of us dies too, but it is also true that a part of our loved one stays with us. Maybe that’s what the emptiness inside us is for: to make a place where our loved ones can live inside us, be part of us, always. Maybe this is true for you?

Stay connected to other people. Stay connected to life. Be aware of what you have lost but also of what you still have."