He Loves Me....Not !

Yesterday evening, I had to face the cold, hard reality that I am no longer his love. It was so very disappointing. After all the love I had for him...suddenly I felt abandoned. He loves me...not ! It was incredibly difficult to face reality, believe me. He was just ignoring me the whole night. Just, how could he ?? It was awful and I am sad and disturbed. I think I felt that his attention last night was on my good friend, Zahra. And, he was flirting ! I was hurt...terribly hurt and jealous... :-(

So, got home last night and cried to sleep. I woke up this morning feeling blue. I know I can't let this go by. So, got a great bright idea !  

I'm going to win him back ! I know I can. So, am heading now to my mum's place. I need to win the heart of my lil' prince charming, Dheeran :-) And, here - pictures of Zahra and him..... :-(

Dheeran giving full attention to Zahra :-(

And look at the way he is smiling. He is just too happy to be in Zahra's arms... :-(

Is Your Relationship Growing ?

Hey ! you women/men out there ! I just came across this article about this dating thingy and some tell tale signs when you're dating for 10 years ! Yup ! it says that big number - 10 full years ! Who would actually date for that long anyway? I've temporarily put on hold my dating ideas :-) But, here's the article about what you should look out for ! Keep a close watch.....

Often we learn about people who have dated for ten years. Though one or two cases of these long dating results in marriage, most of the cases result in heart break instead. Women are the most losers. But we also know that a number of men have also been at the receiving end of such fruitless relationship efforts.

Most people who hang out on this kind of relationship may or may not pick up the tell-tale signs. Many do but choose to ignore them. There are ways one could know if a relationship is growing, stunted or dying.

Here are ways to know if your relationship is growing:

Your partner seeks and honors your opinion on important issues - Dating partners are not obliged to bring their dates into their daily or important activities. However, in a growing relationship, partners are always considerate of the other person and the likely impact of their plans and actions on the relationship. They want to know if what he or she is after jives with the other person. When your opinion is sort and received, it is usually taken seriously is a sign that your relationship is on the bounce.

He or she wants to be your only date - At this stage, courtship is around the corner. Though not really jealous, the partner starts to crowd others out. He or she happily introduces you to everybody around partly out of pride in you and partly because he or she wants people to know that both of you are occupied.

He or she lets you into daily routine - When your dating partner starts making sure that you are in his or her radar every day, when you know what he or she is about for the week or month, then you can be sure the relationship is evolving. The opposite of this is when you are not able to know when you can meet him or her at home or work or when your next date meeting is occurring. We can all remember when a date starts lying about his or her whereabouts.

Pays attention when you talk - When you discover that your partner pays attention when you talk, when you see that he or she is actively listening to you, when you begin to feel that you are having meaningful conversation and communication, then you can know that your relationship is growing. One of the ways to sustain this situation is to reciprocate the action.

Shows interest in knowing more about you - When your date starts asking questions about your childhood, your job, your parents, he or she want to get to know you well, feel your stress at work and your early childhood experiences, then you can feel the buildup of satisfaction. Your partner as a sign of his or her growing interest could ask whether you slept well, what time you woke up from sleep that morning. Being interested in these small details of your life are signs of growth of the relationship. (Hmmm....so far none asked me what time I woke up from sleep in the mornings....:-( ...so, it's not growing...huurrmmm... )

Multiple calls and text messages daily - When you start getting this from a date, it is a sign that you are on his or her mind. If there is any interesting thing happening in his or her life during the day, he or she wants you to be among the first people to know. He or she takes advantage of any developing news or events in the society or community to connect with you by letting you know these things. He or she uses every chance to connect with you when the relationship is important to him or her. (haha...I am thinking hard now... )

So, that's it ! Again...keep a close watch...this tell tale signs will tell you if your relationship is growing or not....if no, he/she is not meant to be yours...so, just continue dating...others..... lol....goodluck ! :-)

My Vacation Starts Tomorrow...Yippee !

Yippee !!! My vacation starts tomorrow. Today is my last working day. I finally managed to get everything in order. And, I just wish I could say "bubyeee" and leave early ! Haha.....bad me !

Later this evening, I'll be at my mum's with Zahra (family friend from Baltimore). Zahra is also going off on a vacation tomorrow but she's doing it at Bahrain. So, a dinner with family comes in well and good. And, yay ! I'll be coo-ing and cuddling my lil' prince charming. Just can't wait to get a feel of him. Do you think he will still remember me? I've done a 4 days of disappearance act ! Hmm.... :-(

Ok, now it's time for my lunch.....wanna join me ? :-)

Story Time : The Three Questions !

My blog is actually a mixture of everything. In Malay they call it "rojak"....lol. So, today my post is about a story by Leo Tolstoy - "The Three Questions". Leo Tolstoy was a Russian and his story was first published in 1885. It's about a King who wants to find answers to what he considers the three most important questions in life :-

What is the right time to do any one thing?
Who are the right people to listen to and work with?
What is the most important thing to do at all times?

He figured that if he knew the answers to these questions, he would be free of any anxiety and never have any issues. So, he called upon all his countrymen to a contest to see if anyone had the answers. Hundreds of people came in. Variety of answers, theories - from science to religion to the military.

Underwhelmed by all these responses, the king dressed in peasant clothing and walked up to visit a wise hermit on top of the mountain, for he may have the answer.

The hermit was busy plowing a garden and the king said, “Excuse me, wise hermit, you do not know me, but I have come to ask you three questions.”

After asking the questions the hermit smiled, patted him on the back, and continued on. The king soon saw that the hermit looked tired and offered to help and began plowing himself. After some time, the king asked the questions again and was interrupted by the sight of a naked man running through the hills with blood spilling from his stomach.

The bleeding man made his way to the hermit and king and the king swept into action and began tearing his own shirt to dress this man’s wound. The hermit and king went to lay the man down to rest in the cave where the hermit stayed and the king’s eyes began to close from exhaustion.

When he awoke he saw the man lying next to him and the man said, “Please forgive me.”

“What have you done that needs forgiveness my son,” said the king.

He continued, “You do not know me, but I was your enemy and after the last war you took my house and killed my brother. I came here for revenge to kill you, and had been waiting for you down the hill for quite some time. But after you didn’t show up, I decided to run out from where I was, but your men found me and gave me this wound. If it wasn’t for you, I would have died out there, so please forgive me and I will be in your debt forever. The king was surprised how easy it was to reconcile with a former enemy and pledged to give the man his house and land back. The man then went on his way.

The hermit came back in the cave and the king once again asked him these three questions to which the hermit replied, “You already know the answer.”

The king gave him a confused look.

The hermit said, “Don’t you see, if you didn’t take pity on me yesterday and help me plow the garden, you would have been attacked by that man and likely died. So the most important time was with me helping me plow those gardens and I was the most important man to be with and to do this good deed was the most important thing to do at the time. After this, the most important time was dressing the wound of that man, for if you had not done that he would have died and you would have never made peace with him. So he was the most important person to be with and what you did for him was the most important thing to do.

So, do you get to the story now ?

What is the right time to do any one thing? - The most important time is NOW. The present is the only time over which we have the power.

Who are the right people to listen to and work with? - The most important person is whoever you are with.

What is the most important thing to do at all times? - The most important thing is to do good to the person you are with.

Two Little Ducks

I'm missing my lil prince charming. It's been 3 days since I last saw him so that means 3 days since I went back home. I can't go back on work days because the traffic here is crazy. More so now that it's raining so heavily in the afternoons and this itself causes horrendous traffic. A journey to my mum's place which takes only about 20 mins can drag for more than an hour !! Unfortunately, I don't have the patience on roads...lol. Not that I speed but I don't like crawling...you know what I mean?

Hmmm.....so, have been thinking of my lil prince alot today...and missing his giggles and coo coo's and ga ga ga's and gu gu gu's....I also remember how he responds to this baby song...."Two Little Ducks"....do you remember this song ??

Two little ducks that I once knew

Fat one, skinny one, two by two

But the one little duck with a feather on its back

It rules the other with a quack quack quack

Down by the river they would go

Wiggle waggle wiggle waggle two by two

And the one little duck with a feather on its back

It rules the other with a quack quack quack


Haha....infact, I did not know about Dheeran's reaction to this song until my sister Mag told me that her son  loves this song so much. She was telling me that she just have to start the first line of the song and he would be all smiles and giggling...lol..and he would try to clasp both his hands and raise his legs up like as though he knows what the song is all about. And, I tried it a couple of times and sure enough he did the same !! Sometimes, I really wonder what makes him so happy listening to the song...is it the melody or the words "ducks", "quack quack" or the "wiggle waggle"....I wonder ! Btw, if you're going to try this song on your lil' ones and forgot the lyrics, just make up your own words as they'll just fit in well...babies won't know...I did that in the beginning and Dheeran was still giggling away...it was all so amusing ! :-)

Hmm...it's a lovely cold afternoon and am just humming to this song and trying to kill time, thus the call for this post...well, it's time for chai....let's have chai....have you had yours ?

Family Reunion

So, a family reunion is coming ! It's just another 2 days before I swing over to India ...lol. Today, my thoughts are about my youngest sister who is married and residing in Chennai. I will be seeing her after many many years which has somewhat made us distant. Though she has visited us but that was some couple of years back. Our communications thus far - via emails and yes, talked on the phone occassionally..  And, there's her hubby and her 3 lovely children to meet too, 2 girls and a boy...ummm...my nephew and nieces... :-)

Infact, this vacation is much more than sightseeing...much more than shopping spree (haha..this i'm not saying with a straight face..lol...but hey ! I love my family) ....It's a time for family reunion...a reunion which matters alot to me. And, it would be great to meet extended families, introducing new additions to family (remember Dheeran? my lil' prince charming..lol). Yeah, its to rekindle the bonds between us...between loved ones.  

Well, with the family scattered around and making it impossible to gather year in and year out, it has been sometimes happy, sometimes sad...you know...kabhi kushi kabhi gham...lol...Well, jokes aside, I am thankful that finally, we're gonna gather...and, yeah ! catch up on all those lost years. This feeling itself makes me feel o' so very good and I've always wanted this ...and one that I prayed for ! My heart is already leaping out of joy and am truly thankful to God for making this possible.

So, gonna cherish the happy moments when it takes place...the moments that I've been waiting for. And, thank you God...I am grateful and I feel so very blessed.

Visa Approved & Countdown Begins...

Yay ! got the tourist visa approved today :-) So, what's next now ? Yeah..the countdown begins. In just 4 days we'll be in India....India ! here we come... :-)

Lots of things to do before the trip. At work, it's been a busy day today. Clearing and trying to keep my work space as clean and user-friendly as possible. I know for a fact that when I return, I'll be like working on a backlog of 14 days. So, it's gonna be "clear as much as possible now and delegate task" so that I can be completely on vacation mode. It's a vacation I wanna enjoy with my family - and ought to just unplug myself from work issues.....so, here goes my memo -"I'm on vacation...be back soon !"....and I wish I could add "do not disturb"...hahaha...

And then, there's my unfinished packing - I've got my to-do list of what needs to be packed and what to just leave behind. Not an easy task. I want everything to fit in one bag and some space for my purchases. Umm...help !!! Haha....tough decision but I guess I should be able to compromise with some of my stuff...lol

Gotta get things organised now...so, I'll get back here soon enough if I can  - so until then and until my next blog.....take care ! So long, with much love... :-)